How to cope with change ?

How do you cope with change? Do you ask? Let me tell you this: change is an opportunity for growth. Whoever dares to embrace it shall rule the world. No matter who you are, change is a powerful force, and to thrive with it, you must learn to embrace it.

Different people experience change differently. If you have ADHD, you might feel very stressed. If you have OCD, you might feel extremely anxious. If you are a typical person, you might overthink or underestimate the importance of change in your life. In the end, if you are someone with a sub-normal IQ, you might not even realize that change has occurred and might still cling to the old methods of society.

Why Even Think About Change?

In my understanding and philosophers like Heraclitus, understand that You cannot step into the same river twice because water is always flowing. Change is constant and can act as a breeding ground for purely nihilistic ideology and that is something I don’t value (please note this might seem a hypocritical comment but, indeed, I don’t value purely nihilistic ideology).

Change-Balance Framework

If you are experiencing change happening too rapidly in your life, it might be because you are making important decisions too impulsively. In contrast, if you are not noticing much change, it could be because you are not trying new things at all.

On the left, you see too many changes and on the right, you see very little change this is similar to leftist and rightist Imagine life as a spectrum, as represented in this image. On one end, you experience too much change—chaos, instability, and constant flux. On the other end, there’s very little change—stagnation, rigidity, and resistance to growth. Neither extreme is ideal, as both can lead to imbalance and challenges in life.

The “Good State,” shown in the centre, represents the balance you should aim for. This state is not a fixed point but rather a dynamic range, shifting slightly between a bit of change and stability. Life requires adaptability—sometimes you need to embrace rapid changes, and other times you need to hold firm to established principles and routines.

Finding this balance helps maintain harmony in your life. It’s about knowing when to adapt and when to stay grounded, ensuring you remain steady while progressing forward.

The change assessment tree

The tree you see at the top is a decision tree that can help you understand how to react to certain changes in your life.

Changes We don’t Have Power Over

There are changes in the world we don’t have power over; those are the changes we just have to accept and get through. However, if we handle them poorly, we create a recipe for chaos later. For example, some people might turn to video games, pornography, or alcohol as coping mechanisms, which can lead to general anxiety and harmful habits in life.

Rather, here are some healthy coping mechanisms you can incorporate into your life:

• Creative endeavors: Engage in activities like playing music, painting, or writing to channel your emotions constructively.
• Hobbies: Rediscover or start a new hobby that brings you joy and focus.
• Exercise: Regular physical activity can help release stress and improve your mood.
• Mindfulness: Practice mindfulness techniques such as meditation or deep breathing to stay grounded.
• Journaling: Write down your thoughts and feelings to process emotions and gain clarity.
• Socializing: Spend time with supportive friends or family to uplift your spirits and gain perspective.

These are a few positive steps you can take as you process the changes in your life.

In short, engaging yourself in calm and positive creation is the best thing you can do.

When the change is not evil

If you find yourself constantly shrouded but the changes you do not have power over maybe the game is rigged, maybe by you or if you are in North Korea the game is rigged by your government.

Change We Have Power Over

There are many things in life that we are responsible for, as we all know. Solzhenitsyn understood this deeply and took the idea that “everyone is responsible for everyone and for everything” to another level. In doing so, he was able to spark a moral revolution in the Soviet Union.

We must understand that the world we live in operates on the principle of cause and effect. Everything that happens to us is, in some way, our responsibility. The reason you should not think, “Whatever is happening to me is not my responsibility,” is that by doing so, you strip yourself of all the power you once had. In turn, you also strip yourself of the power you currently have and the power you could have in the future.

So to be any efficient human being you must take responsibility.

Changes That Are Good and We Feel Good About Them

In life, not everything happens because it is crucial to existence; sometimes, good things happen, and we must learn to embrace them. As humans, we are biologically programmed to give more “Daam!..” about our problems than to focus on positive thoughts or good deeds. However, in my understanding, focusing more on the good things can significantly improve your well-being and even increase your lifespan over time.

Changes That Are Good but We Feel Bad About Them

People who are highly neurotic often find themselves in these situations. This happens to many people—you might have ended a toxic relationship but still feel absolutely shattered about it. In my opinion, this resonates because you don’t fully understand your feelings as deeply as you should. This is often rooted in a flawed fundamental belief system, which occurs when you expect something that is both a lie and the truth at the same time. For instance, in this case, believing that the abusive person genuinely cares about you.

In these situations, you must write down your thoughts and genuinely try to have a dialogue with yourself to better understand your feelings. This practice acts as a form of meditation and is something you should absolutely do, no matter what you are trying to achieve. If this resonates with you, I recommend this blog, which could prove to be pivotal in your journey.

Understanding oneself is as important as saving the world

Changes Which Are Bad But You Feel Good About Them

These changes are among the most damaging to your life and soul. In religious literature, such impulses are described as leading you away from the divine. They can cause you to spiral out of morality, and in my opinion, this happens because people are fundamentally optimistic—until tragedy strikes and deviates them from the path of morality and constructive behaviour. In these cases, the future becomes entirely unclear, making everything ten times worse.

One of the best things you can do is reflect on your future:

1. What happens if you continue on this path?
2. What will you lose?
3. What positive goal can you choose to deviate from these destructive impulses?

The last step is incredibly effective because it harnesses the same power that initially dragged you into self-destruction, redirecting it toward growth and recovery.

Changes Which Are Bad and You Feel Bad About Them

These changes are your “MISTAKES.” No, you should not be punished or think of death, unless, of course, you’ve committed a heinous crime. You must understand a very fundamental truth of human existence: no matter what you do, you will always make mistakes. In fact, many times, you will make the same mistakes multiple times.

MISTAKES and FAILURES are not inherently bad; they are simply by-products of the goodness of being.

In such cases, meditating on these topics, in the following order, can be incredibly effective:

1. What happened?
2. Why did it happen?
3. Why did you react that way?
4. What should you have done instead?
5. What will you do when something similar happens again?

It’s essential to understand that you need to create a system that prevents you from repeating these actions. You can build such a system by learning methods to improve your focus and decision-making. For example, you can watch my video on how to improve concentration, where I provide a framework to help you create a better version of anything.

Of course, there are narcissistic public figures who will tell you that mistakes teach you nothing. But let’s take a moment to understand a fundamental fact: MISTAKES and FAILURES can teach you a lot—if you’re willing to truly look at them.

You can choose to ignore them to boost your ego and say all the right-sounding things, but the reality is, no matter what you do, avoiding accountability will only make you less efficient in the long run. Growth comes from facing your mistakes, not running from them.

Conclusion

In my understanding, mastering change is crucial for human evolution. The moment you can recognize that change is coming, you gain the ability to create authentic values in the world and contribute to making it a little better place.